Thursday, July 29, 2010

Honest To Blog

I get a lot of comments from people saying "I don't know how you do it all."  It may appear that I manage to find time to work on crafts, play with my son and do different activities with him, visit friends and family, and take on every other thing that comes my way all while keeping a tidy home.  But let me assure you, I don't....

No, my house doesn't always look like this.  But there are times when life gets in the way and I have to make choices.... Do I sweep the floors, or let my son sit in my lap and read the book he brought me?  Do I wash the dishes or sit down next to my husband who just wants to spend an hour watching television with me?  

I'm not saying you should forget about cleaning altogether... I know that my husband loves coming home to a clean house and feels more relaxed when he's not looking at a giant mess.  Fortunately, he understands when it gets messy.  The important thing is to not feel inadequate or overwhelmed when you just can't seem to do it all.... nobody can.  I know that's a lot to handle for those of you who are perfectionists and control freaks like me.  It's been a hard concept for me to grasp.  But at the end of the day, I can look at my messy home and know that it's okay because 10 years down the road, it's not going to matter that my house was messy.  What will matter is that my marriage was happy, my children were loved and blessed with the best childhood I could give them, and that I lived my life instead of just wasting it.

I can't remember who said it, but a quote that's stuck with me over the years is this...
"A man would rather have a messy house and a happy wife, then a happy house and a messy wife."

Now go find something fun to do ;0)


  1. Amen!!! Charlotte

  2. I love that you're willing to admit that you can't do it all... I still believe you can :)